The Message – Betrayal, A Heart Breaker

September, 2018

 Betrayal is one of the most painful experiences we can face. To find out someone we love and trusted has deeply hurt us is painful. It is a heart breaker. Betrayal comes in many forms. Adultery probably tops the list. However betrayal also comes by the betrayer spreading lies, falsely accusing, gossiping, slander and rejecting you. It is not from God.

 The most known betrayal was done by Judas against Jesus. Judas was greedy to the point of betraying the trust of Jesus and his fellow disciples.

 John 12:5-6 Why was this ointment not sold for three hundred denarii and given to the poor? He said this, not because he cared about the poor, but because he was a thief, and having charge of the moneybag he used to help himself to what was put into it.

 Psalm 41:9 Even my close friend in whom I trusted who ate my bread, has lifted his heel against me.

 God knew that Satan would enter Judas and he would betray Jesus. God works through the actions of humans to accomplish His purposes. This betrayal was used as the means to get Jesus to the cross. God used Satan’s rebellion and Judas’ sin for the benefit of mankind. Though forces of Satan and wicked men plotted against Jesus and put Him to death, God accomplished salvation by raising Jesus from the dead. Satan actually helped send Jesus to the cross where sin, death, hell and the grave were defeated and forgiveness of sins and eternal life were given to all who would believe in Jesus.

 John 13:26-27 Jesus answered, It is he to whom I will give this morsel of bread when I have dipped it. So when he had dipped the bread, he gave it to Judas Iscariot. Then after he had taken the bread, Satan entered into him. Jesus said to him, What you are going to do, do quickly.

 Luke 22:48 but Jesus said to him, Judas would you betray the Son of Man with a kiss?

 Jesus knows exactly how we feel in our betrayal today. He experienced it first hand and an agonizing death followed it.

 Betrayal is one of the most painful human experiences. It brings on a storm of emotions. Discovering someone you love and trusted has deeply hurt you, pulls the rug out from under us. It breaks our hearts.

 Someone who is betrayed regardless of how, experiences anger and outrage. Often times they have been blindsided by the betrayer.

 In my case the betrayer not only wasn’t sorry for the hurt caused, but in a matter of days went on to betray me again. They were deliberate, conscious acts. An act of heartless indifference and malice. He wasn’t sorry then, and still not to this day. Yes, Satan had a hand in this.

 Betrayal teaches us about love and what destroys it. When betrayal is repetitive it is doubtful any relationship can survive. My relationship and view of this loved one is forever changed. I will continue to love and send prayer.

 Some betrayals leave us little choice but to grieve, heal and move on with our lives. Yes, grieve. For the one betrayed, it is a similar process as when you lose someone you love in death. You experience shock, unbelief, devastation, sadness, tears, depression, more tears, anger and more anger. These symptoms swing back and forth.

 Afterwards you must come to grips with the fact that if you carry this hurt around with you it will always have power over your life. You were wronged and it hurt then and it still hurts. It can consume you. It can create strongholds in your mind if you don’t let it go. It can control your future decisions and relationships. It can cause bitterness in you unless you put it behind you.

 The only way I found to put it behind me was to pray to God to help me and to forgive that person and all involved. You must do the same regardless of whether they are sorry for the pain they caused you or not. Forgive them and everyone involved. Don’t do it for them. Do it for you. Do it to obey God.

 There was a time when I had to forgive my father who murdered my mother when I was 11. I chose to forgive him because the Lord requires it of His followers. I had carried it around for decades and it had a negative impact on my life. 

 The Lord expects us to forgive others even though they don’t deserve it as He forgives us and we don’t deserve it. Seventy times seven Jesus told Peter to forgive someone. Makes no difference if they ask for forgiveness or not. For our sake and to be obedient to the Lord we must forgive. It helps us deep inside when we forgive them. It takes the load off. The yoke is broken. Freedom.

 Matthew 18:21-22 Then Peter came to Jesus and asked, Lord, how many times shall I forgive my brother who sins against me? Up to seven times? Jesus answered, I tell you not just seven times, but seventy times seven times.

 Matthew 5:44 But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you.

 Choose to use God’s weapons. Use forgiveness to chase away the anger you feel. Let love drive away the hate in your heart. Allow goodness to overcome wickedness.

 In time you will be able to put the betrayal mostly in the past. When you pray that first prayer asking the Lord to help those who hurt you and choosing forgiveness towards them, the burden begins to lift immediately. You may never forget it, but hopefully it will no longer have a negative effect on you and your life. You will overcome the shock of it all and begin to heal emotionally. You will think less and less of it over time.

 Psalm 34:18 The Lord is close to the brokenhearted and saves those who are crushed in spirit.

 Let the Lord take care of those who hurt you. He will. I take comfort in knowing that.

 Luke 8:17 For there is nothing hidden that will not be disclosed and nothing concealed that will not be known or brought out into the open.

 Proverbs 6:31 yet if he is caught, he must pay back seven times more–he must give up everything he has. 

 Don’t keep on giving life to a dead situation. Grieve over it, cry over it then leave it with the Lord. Move forward no longer looking to the past that you cannot change. Ask the Lord to take the sorrow and negative emotions away from you. Satan is the one who wants you to keep having them and I reject that. Fire of God ignite in us. Blow away the sorrow and negativity. Blow it far from us and fill us with Your desires instead, in Jesus Name.

 Pray for the betrayer. Ask God to help them, to bless them. You can’t move forward if you are carrying past hurts in your heart. Forgive so you can heal, so you can live. God has healing in His hands. When you are at your weakest, He will lift you up.

 Psalm 147:3 He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds.

 I will rise above this and give God all the glory. God is parting the waters and leading me out of this sorrowful season. Let Him lead you out as well.

 God bless. Heal the brokenhearted, bind up all their wounds.