This is Shonda’s birthday month. I just wanted to honor her memory, mostly for all of us she left behind, who love and miss her so much.

The writing below was found in Shonda’s things, after her death.

In the essence of every difficulty I will ever encounter, God has already experienced before me, and He has graciously studied and approved it.

If you do not understand, and you cannot trace His hand, then trust His heart and His wisdom. Dated October 7, 1995

Shonda went through many wonderful happy times, and hardships throughout her life. Instead of the hardships making her angry, bitter, and unforgiving, she became giving, strong, loving, and unselfish. She loved.

A woman of good character and integrity. She was a care giver, a nurturer. She would do anything for anyone, regardless if they were family or not. She was a great mother, grandmother, sister, friend and co-worker. She had a relationship with Jesus, which helped her to get through the troubles of life. When her heart was broken, she helped others. When others were sick, she took care of them. It didn’t matter if she had to drive 60 miles to get to you. If you were down and out, one visit from her and you would be smiling and laughing by the time she left. Her smile was contagious, and she lit up the room with it. She loved.

Although she lost mother when she was 5, Shonda was still a great mother. Mother wasn’t able to be an example for her. She wasn’t taught the things most daughters are taught by their mothers. Regardless, she loved her children greatly. She did without so they were taken care of. She struggled to get by, to put a roof over their heads, food on the table. She didn’t have new clothes to wear, but her children had clothes. She did without, but her children didn’t do without anything they needed. She loved.

Shonda’s idea of a good weekend was when all the grandkids plus 1 (Drew, Cara, Ryan, Jake, Jonah) were there. She catered to these kids, like only grandmothers can. She cooked their favorite foods. She played with them. She was the referee between them. She talked to them about what they each enjoyed, and about struggles they may be going through. She went to as many school activities as she could. She loved.

I have great loving memories of my little Sister. I have always called her that, even when she was in her 50’s. She will forever be my little Sister. We have always been close to each other, regardless of any miles separating us. We kept in touch. Didn’t matter what was going on, we talked. We discussed, the good, the bad and the ugly. She always had an ear to listen, a mouth to offer advice, and a heart that loved you, no matter what was going on with you, or what mess you might be in. She loved.

She loved her work and the Doctors, nurses, and co-workers she worked with. She was always telling me about something they had said or done. She loved helping the patients, even when they were less than cooperative, because she knew she was helping them. She knew them by name. She kept up with how they were doing. She gave of herself to them. She loved.
Matthew 22:36-39 Teacher, which is the greatest commandment in the Law? Jesus replied: Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the first and greatest commandment. And the second is like it: Love your neighbor as yourself.
I encourage each of you to spend as much of your life, loving others as you can. Strive to become more like Jesus, the greatest lover of people that ever lived.

God Bless. Heal the broken-hearted, bind up all their wounds.